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How to Save Your Marriage When Your Partner Mentions Divorce?

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T HERE ARE NUMEROUS REASONS WHY A ONCE COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP would degenerate to one partner asking for a divorce.  It could have been: - an affair - having been separated by a long distance for lengths of time - conflict - behavioral issues or psychological problems of one spouse - even unmanaged addictions.  Whatever of these problems may be what is seen on the surface, the bottom line is that usually, barring any abuse or psychological problems that are best handled by a professional, a couple find themselves in danger of divorce when there is a loss of: - communication,  - love  - and intimacy  in the marital relationship.  Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners.  With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable.  However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their
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Tips To Add Spice And Keep The Love In Your Marriage

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W E HAVE HEARD THE TERM 2 OLD MARRIEDS BEFORE.  Most of us 'younger marrieds' harbor dreams of getting to that point. Some of us find it unappealing and unexciting.  After all, what would you always prefer? A marriage as comfy as an old sock or the one hyped up in romantic novels and comedies? Interestingly, it does take years of passion, love and intimacy to get to the point where a couple is so comfortable with each other that they finish each other's sentences and depend on each other.  Want to know a secret?  Studies say that couples like these have an even better sex life in their marital futures than the ones with all the passion at the start then burn out later on.   Why?  Because these savvy couples don't let up on keeping the intimacy, passion and spice in their marriages.  They have built it up through the years to what we can call as a marriage 'art form'. How can you learn these spicy tips to keep the love in
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How To Overcome Codependency In Your Marriage

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A RE YOU MARRIED TO AN EMOTIONAL ADDICT OR SOMEONE WITH DEEP personal issues?    Is your marriage or family life going through a difficult time because of problems, financial concerns, abuse, or caring for a physically or emotionally handicapped family member? If so, do you find yourself making excuses for these issues?  Calling in sick for your alcoholic husband?  Taking over the housework because your poor spouse is just too depressed to help?  Denying that abuse is going on in your own home?  Do you find yourself taking charge and bearing the burdens of the entire marriage or family? You may be a codependent and this is a serious issue in marriages and families. You may have learned to be codependent due to your family background. It happened in your family so you tend to be attracted to the same situation once you marry. You may have learned behaviors such as making excuses, tuning out, controlling, excessive caretaking, being hyper-vigilant
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4 Tips For Avoiding Divorce

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A REALITY OF MODERN RELATIONSHIPS IS THE KNOWLEDGE THAT DIVORCE statistics have been steadily escalating in recent years.     Even now, all marriages have between a 40 and 50 percent chance of divorce, which increases for second and third marriages, which is why it's more important than ever to have the necessary skills to ensure your relationship is secure against the threat of divorce. There are steps you can take to actually build a strong, stable marriage and avoid divorce. Here are some key steps to apply to your marriage: 1. Start By Understanding And Be Informed You can never be too informed about tools, methods and studies about building successful marriages.  Understand the risk factors like your age and maturity at marriage can determine how successful it will be, the anatomy of an affair and what you can do after infidelity.  Understand the success factors like the personal and psychological circumstances that will influence your marriage,
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How To Get Your Spouse To Love You Again?

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L IKE THE SEASONS, LOVE IN A RELATIONSHIP GROWS AND WANES.  One of the most common myths in marriages is the belief that when the love wanes the relationship is over.  It's not. If your spouse says 'I have fallen out of love with you,' don't panic. It doesn't mean your marriage is over.  It doesn't even mean they don't love you.  What it does mean is that your spouse has lost their way, or doesn't understand the many stages love and a relationship goes through.  You are being called to take charge of the situation, guide your spouse towards understanding this process, and even begin to rekindle your relationship. The key to success is in understanding what is happening in your marriage and the role that love plays. It's very easy for us to connect losing the feelings of being in love with actual loving when it is not really the case.  After the initial thrill of romance is gone, couples often find themselves lost
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Saving Marriage With Unconditional Love

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W HAT ARE THE ESSENTIAL INGREDIENTS IN SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS? In the middle of a workshop recently a pertinent question was asked about what creates the ideal relationship.  We were asked to think of a relationship we had with something in the last week that in one's mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal. A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes.  To each of these men, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain. A number of women considered kitchen appliances, favorite clothes or shoes, old friends, neighbors, and treasured items in their lives, and the bond that they had created either between people or with items they used in their lives. 
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Communication Breakdown

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I T HAPPENS TO ALL OF US. Communication is such a fickle thing, and the lines of communication can become blurred every so often, especially when love and feelings are involved.  Even those who think that they are immune to the confusion of conflict can find themselves drawn into a communication breakdown when they least expect it, and chaos ensues. Even those of us who are better equipped than many others are not immune.  This happened to me on the weekend, and until to be quite honest, it took me by surprise.  My spouse told me something that really hurt my feelings, and I automatically lashed back in defense.  It was a silly argument, over something as simple as a misplaced bottle of perfume.  But to me, it represented something much deeper that had been simmering away for a couple of weeks.  I get frustrated at having to search for something when it is not where I expect it to be, worse still when my partner has shifted it and I don't know t
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